Jumping Off the Infernal Wheel: Buddhism and Teenage Suicide
by Paki S. Wright

Spiritual Suffering

I was also, however -- and I have a theory that this holds true for many suicidal people, particularly adolescents thinking about suicide -- highly intelligent, creative and idealistic.  In my case, it was a combination of stressors that put me over the edge: feelings of personal failure, rejection, and depression.Luckily, I didn't succeed in killing myself, even after two attempts. Yet there are thousands of deaths from teen suicides yearly in the U. S.; different sources give the totals between 4,000 and 10,000.  Whatever the number, it is many too many. 

Some of the reasons given for the increased youth suicide rates are family splintering, more drug and alcohol abuse, access to guns, and increased competition at earlier ages. These are some of the specifics, but I would add a few more: environmental degradation, the pressures of overpopulation, and a deepening sense of despair about the future.

And yet suicide is never a viable option for opting out of life's inevitable pain and suffering. In Buddhist terms, it just gets you out of the frying pan and into the fire. 

Young people who even think about, much less attempt suicide are the canaries in the coal mine of our nihilistic mass culture. A healthy society would not have so many young people -- at younger and younger ages -- trying to kill themselves.  Suicidal tendencies in children are saying we're on the wrong track.  We can deny or repress the message, but that won't change the situation. We need a new perspective, new answers.  

Most Westerners know that suicide is considered a mortal sin in Judeo-Christian terms. Buddhism has no concept of sin, but it does have one of negative karma -- something that we have control over creating, or not.  It's important to understand that Buddhism is both "pro-life and against attempts to legislate individual morality." This means we don't make decisions for others, or judge them for what they do. However, there are certain things a Buddhist will take as given, since the Buddha's followers generally believe in reincarnation and karma (but not at all necessarily as a human).  

Karma, simply put, means "action." Positive results follow from positive actions, negative results follow from negative. This is virtually the same as the Biblical injunction, "As ye sow, so shall ye reap."  

Rebirth means that our consciousness continues after death, taking form in other lives. Thus, "while death means an end to the physical body, it does not mean an end to the mental continuum." This is both good and bad news. (One of my esteemed Tibetan Buddhist meditation teachers, Tulku Urgyen Rinpoche, said more than once, "Unfortunately, there is no death.")  

The potentially good news is we don't die in the total oblivion, lights-out sense. The potentially bad news is that "whatever habits and traits one has cultivated, both positive and negative, will 'spill over' into another life." We don't necessarily gain rebirth as a human being after we die; having two human incarnations in a row is said to be very rare. The human is only one of six realms (the other five are hell realms, hungry ghost, animal, jealous god, and god realms). Our human realm, then, even with all its faults and foibles, is unquestionably the most favorable for spiritual development because it alone has the right mixture of spiritual suffering (for motivation) and freedom to act on this inspiration. This is why the term "precious human rebirth" is used. The other realms don't have the right "mix." 

But --another proviso -- not even all human rebirths have the necessary ingredients to be considered "precious." One needs incredible amounts of positive karma to be able to follow the path to liberation. If you have the chance and you blow it, well . . . it's analogous to landing on a jewel-covered island and leaving empty-handed.  

Everybody dies. Yet how we die can determine a lot about our future lives. The ideal Buddhist death is "to die without anxiety regarding those one leaves behind and in a conscious state which is calm and uplifted" -- rarely the case with suicides.  One must learn one's lessons and live out the karma of this particular life; a self-enforced death cuts short the process. A natural death gives us the rare opportunity to reflect on the nature of attachment and the suffering it inevitably brings.

From a Buddhist perspective, the meaning of life is to become enlightened, so that one can then be of ultimate benefit to all sentient beings. This is not possible without a body as a vehicle, therefore the body is precious, because it will bring one to the highest happiness: freedom from suffering. 

While it was clear to me as an anguished teenager that life was full of suffering in one form or another, I thought it was my fault, that I had somehow brought it on by my own behavior. Since I didn't see how I could change anything, I thought suicide was the only way out. However, in Ven. Thrangu Rinpoche's words, "Once one is aware of how suffering takes place, then one can begin to remove the causes of suffering."  

Idealistic young people need high ideals, ways of channeling their positive energies into constructive outlets -- instead of shopping at the local factory outlet. They need to do things that make contributions to society, that elevate their self-esteem and give them tangible emotional satisfaction. The one thing we can always do, no matter what the situation, is help each other. No matter what else prevails, helping others redeems our lives. This is the main tenet of Buddhism, for only by helping others do we truly help ourselves -- out of our own selfishness, egoism, and indifference. 

Often, seemingly simple things like family support, decent grades, getting enough sleep -- and exercise --- can have powerfully positive results in attitudes about living. Many teenagers, for instance, don't value the importance of eating well. I know I didn't, but my habit of bingeing and then fasting did drastic things to my brain chemistry and subsequent moods. Ironically, if I'd thought of my body as a vehicle I might have treated myself better. Everybody knows cars don't run well on bad gas -- or at all if the tank is empty.  Especially important is substance abuse counseling, since almost 90% of all suicides and suicide attempts are associated with some form of misuse of drugs or alcohol.   

I know that in my case, I could really have used some meditation training. I needed some way of seeing the temporary, impermanent nature of thought, some way of freeing myself from negative, self-destructive ideas. It's not very difficult to learn how to tell harmful thoughts from positive ones. As Tibetan Buddhist nun Ani Tenzin Palmo said, "The main benefit of meditation is being able to choose which thoughts to follow." Plainly, too many young people follow their darkest, most desperate ones - suicidal tendencies.